EP 43: How to Stop Letting Old Stories Run Your Relationships with Dr. R. Scott Gornto

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. R. Scott Gornto, therapist and author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves, to explore the quiet narratives that shape how we see ourselves and how we show up in relationships.

We talk about where these internal stories come from, why they feel so real, and how they quietly influence our triggers, behaviors, and relational patterns. From dating and intimacy to conflict and emotional safety, we unpack how much of what we experience in relationships is less about what’s actually happening and more about the meaning we assign to it.

Dr. Gornto shares insight into how these stories form, how to recognize when they’re running the show, and what it truly takes to begin rewriting them in a way that creates more grounded, secure connection.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same patterns, confused by your reactions, or aware that something deeper is at play in your relationships, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a powerful new lens for understanding yourself.

About Dr. R. Scott Gornto

Dr. R. Scott Gornto is a licensed therapist, speaker, and author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves. With a background in psychology and years of clinical experience, his work focuses on helping people understand how internal narratives shape behavior, emotional responses, and relationship patterns.

Through his writing and therapeutic work, Dr. Gornto explores how early experiences influence the stories we carry about ourselves, others, and connection — and how bringing awareness to those stories can create meaningful, lasting change. His approach blends compassion, insight, and practical tools to help people move out of old patterns and into more grounded, secure ways of relating.

https://www.drrscottgornto.com/about 

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